Self Care in Chaos

Staying healthy is on all of our minds lately. Self care is one of those things we forget to do when life gets chaotic. Yet, it's one of the best ways you can keep your mind, body and spirit healthy every day.

If you've got your toilet paper and sanitizer situation under control, then you're ready for self care!
Seriously, you need the self care even if you don't have three years of supplies in storage. The goal is to bring your stress down a few notches and take some time for you.

Why now? We just don't do enough self care. It's hard to make healthy changes and stick with them. Life is stressful. We are busy. And, many of us are caregivers...we just forget about ourselves.

Start simple: 
1. Take a nature walk.
2. Do something crafty.
3. Watch a funny movie or video - laughter is fabulous for the soul! Get those endorphins movin'.
4. Read something that's been on your read pile for a while.
5. Do yoga. (Sub yoga for any exercise that lifts your mood and brings you calm).
6. Spend 5 minutes stretching at the beginning and end of your day.
7. Make a big pot of soup and freeze some, to take a load off of yourself for dinner later.
8. Take a snooze.
9. Use a salve infused with calming essential oils to give a massage and get a massage.
10. Color. Yes, color.
11. Take an virtual tour of an art museum.
12. Burn your fave candle or diffuse your favorite essential oil - aromatherapy has so many benefits!
13. Take a hot, relaxing bath.
14. Add some bright and beautiful flowers to your kitchen table.
15. Fix something broken that you've had stashed in a closet that needs your TLC.
16. Declutter and donate the things that would bless someone else's life to your favorite charity (such as Epilepsy Foundation - they pick up donations in most places).
17.  Have a dance party!
18. Connect with someone you haven't talked to in a while.
19. Pay it forward.
20. Crank the tunes - music you love will bring joy to your soul, a smile to your face, and a it gets your body moving.

So what's happening at our house today? Chicken soup, elderberry syrup, salves, loud music, an extra cup of coffee while the rest of the house sleeps in, and a good book. Self care really isn't about the list. It's about making time to allow yourself to restore and renew.

 Slow it down and keep it simple. You're worth it!

XO

Homemade Aromatherapy Play Dough

Are the kids driving you nuts yet?

One of the early lessons I learned is to collect crafty things and stash them, so we have something to do during the winter months. This is especially helpful now that we're in the season when school is canceled due to winter weather. A few days at home staring each other down will usually do you in!

Home made play dough with essential oils is a fabulous way to keep the people smelling great and keep them busy.

What you'll need: 
-1 1/2 cups of flour
-2 T oil (extra virgin olive oil works well)
-1/2 cup salt
-2 t cream of tartar
-1 cup boiling water (add food coloring to the water before pouring the water in)
-food coloring
-5 drops kid friendly essential oil

If you're living the gluten free adventure, try this recipe instead: 
-2 cups gluten free flour
-2 T oil
-1/2 cup salt
-2 T cream of tartar
-1 1/2 cups boiling water (add food coloring to the water before pouring the water in)
-food coloring
-5 drops kid friendly essential oil

Directions for both: 
Mix flour, salt, cream of tartar and oil in a large bowl. Slowly add the water to the mixing bowl. Stir or fold in the ingredients with the water until the mixture forms a slightly sticky dough. Fold the dough into a ball and remove it from the bowl. Knead the dough to remove any lumps and bumps. Add essential oils and knead to mix the oil in. Keep your play dough in an airtight container to store.

Note: You can wait to add the food coloring until after the dough is made. Grab some plastic gloves and knead the food coloring into the dough before adding the essential oils. 

Kid friendly* essential oil ideas: peppermint, lemon, wild orange, rosemary, lavender



*Omit the use of essential oils for kids under 2 who are still exploring the world one mouth at a time.

Soul Fires

We were starting to think this balmy tundra winter was going to stay warm...until this week. Welcome back frigid temps (moving in to -45F wind chills next week)!

While you're going to have to bundle up to keep the frost from settling on your toes this week, diffusing essential oils that are grounding and warming to the soul increases our winter happy! I pair these warm blends in the diffuser with a cup of our chai tea latte or hot chocolate in my mug, and snuggle inside for a few days.

We also love to bake when it's cold outside. A few weeks ago, I tried a gluten free cookie recipe and I cannot keep these things in the house long enough to get more than one or two myself. The better half may or may not have eaten four in a row. YES! Yum. This gal is a brilliant gluten free mama.

When you're mixing essential oils together scents are important, as are the positive properties of each oil. There are a few essential oils that are out there that aren't used that often, probably because we just don't know much about them, but they are oh so good! We use our favorite essential oils when diffusing, because, well, the purity of scent matters. You'll hang on to a scent memory far longer than others.

Ylang ylang is one of those essential oils that might leave you wondering what you can do with it.

Ylang ylang (ee-lang, ee-lang), supports emotional connection, joyfulness, and innocence (try this in a massage oil...zing!) It's a heart healer that pairs nicely with uplifting citrus scents and sultry flowery scents. Using it as the undertone grounds us in joy, something that I sure start to look for when day 15 of below zero temps are in the forecast!

Cinnamon is an interesting one. It encourages us to feel free and connected. Cinnamon is a hot oil, so definitely wash up right away if you get this oil on your skin (and never rub your eye if you do - youch!) Even the flavor is a connector in recipes. Cinnamon also supports our immune system and helps us kick the winter blues.

For many, lavender is calming to the mind, releases tension, and encourages expression. Around here, we use lavender before a big game or nerve wracking new experience. Not everyone is a fan of lavender. You might try juniper berry instead, which we love in our house for peaceful sleep. Either of these oils will bring a more flowery scent to this blend, juniper berry adding depth with its earthy tones.

If neither lavender or juniper berry are your thing, our other go to favorite is wild orange. You can blend wild orange with just about any essential oil and it smells wonderful! It's uplifting and connects with our playful side - if it's not yet frozen.

Some connect very deeply with the smell of clove. I like a little more clove than less, but you decide what works best for you. After learning more about it, I understand why the wild and free spirits in our house love this smell! Clove ignites our soul fire and stimulates the mind, which can much us feel empowered, independent, and safe.

We've use quite a few different cool mist diffusers, but this is our go-to diffuser. It's small enough that it can be moved around the house and has a auto shut-off feature.


For your diffuser: 
Soul Fire
-3 drops ylang ylang
-2 drops cinnamon
-2 drops lavender (or try juniper berry, citrus bliss, or wild orange)
-1 drop clove

A few more blends to try: 
Stay Warm
-2 drops cinnamon
-2 drops wild orange
-2 drops clove
*add one drop douglas or siberian fir if you want to add an up north kick to this blend

Bustin' the Blues
-2 drops bergamot
-2 drops eucalyptus
-2 drops wild orange


What I love most is that you can explore essential oils as often or as slowly as you like by diffusing. The blends are limitless. 

Stay warm!

Simple Salve

I'm going to let you in on a little secret: one of my favorite ways to use essential oils is in a salve. It's moisturizing for the skin, creates a protective barrier, and helps us heal without harsh chemicals and alcohols that dry out our skin.

Plain salves with ingredients that we can count on are hard to come by, even with added essential oils. Before I use something on my already sensitive skin, I want to be sure that the oils are pure and the therapeutic value is high.

This ain't no easy thing...

We tried all sorts of products, before we figured out how to make our own salve. It is quite possibly the best deep skin moisturizer ever! You can change up the oils in the ingredients to support allergies, too. We use it on the itchiest, dry, cracked skin. When we haven't been able to get other remedies to work, this salve has done the trick every time.

If you've tried my miracle salve, you know.

Even your dry, cracked, flaky flip flop feet will come out feeling smooth. What I love the most about this salve is that I can add any essential oil to it and put it anywhere on my body. Dare I say, it's edible. Use some common sense here. Don't eat the salve. That's just wrong.

We store our big batches in glass jars - mason jars, jelly jars, etc. Keep it neat and you can melt it down any time to add an essential oil to it.

Here's how we make it: 

• Fill a sauce pan 1/4-1/3 full of water on medium heat on the stove. It's important not to crank the heat, because you don't want your oils to burn (stinky!) and you need even melting. 
• Place a glass measuring cup in the water and add the ingredients to the measuring cup - the beeswax takes extra time to melt completely. Be sure all of the oils and the beeswax have melted together, or your salve will be chunky and/or grainy. 
• After all ingredients are melted together, carefully remove the measuring cup from the pan.

You'll need: 

• 1/2 cup of extra virgin olive oil (any is fine, the lighter the scent of your olive oil, the less you will pick up on that scent in the salve) or sweet almond oil 
• 1/4 cup coconut oil 
• 3T beeswax pellets (white beeswax pellets or yellow beeswax pellets - both function the same) 
• 2T shea butter
• Optional: essential oils of your preference (we love these ones) 

Pour the salve in to the containers that you want to store them in before it starts to set. If you're adding essential oil, do that right away, by stirring the essential oil in to the mixture. Then, pour the final magic in to the storage container to allow the salve to cool and set.

The salve will look something like this when you're done. Your salve may come out a little darker, depending on the depth of color in the olive oil or beeswax you use.  

Words to the wise: 

Beeswax may give you a bit of a challenge when cleaning your measuring cup. It's helpful to fill the measuring cup up with warm water and dish soap right away, to keep the mixture from hardening in your measuring cup.

If you're a herb or flower lover, infused olive oil works well too. (I have not tried store bought, but have infused with fresh herbs and plants. 

You can melt this down in the microwave, though you will get a grainier texture that you won't like in the salve. Heating the oils in the microwave also breaks them down and can create a cooked scent (not good when mixing with essential oils). No one wants to smell like Thanksgiving Turkey! 

Balance

I always look at the beginning of a new year as a new start for great things - diets, exercise, cleaning my house, saving for adventures. 2018 was an enlightening year. I'm not much for even numbered anything and even numbered years tend to take the cake. 2018 was no exception.

When life is going to switch gears on me, the message is usually a gentle whisper, like the wind, blowing me in a different direction. Not this time. The message came screeching around the corner leaving me without a doubt that it was time to listen. That happened in 2016 as well, when the best half of us woke up to a guard rail and found himself in the car floating across lanes of highway before dawn. (Definitely not a whisper). 

We've had growing pains, health issues, defining moments...all that good stuff that happens in a house with teenage humans. We've also had an evolution of self, as we're both searching for what brings us joy in our professional lives. 

I'm not sure that the joy is entirely missing, but the balance is. We can feel this on a long weekend, when there's enough time to get it all done and slow down enough to enjoy each other. When we're able to eat home cooked food together in the same place at the same time. When we're practicing self-care and enjoying our health, instead of trying to keep up and squashing the symptoms with meds. 

I've thought for a long time about balance. It seems like the last page in the parenting guide. The thing they forget to tell you about. Focus on success, family, bigger - better, bigger - better, but balance -- balance is what gets lost in the process.

So, we're on the path to balance. Something simpler. Being able to get it all done, spend some time with each other, and sleep. Crazy idea.

I'm starting with what does not bring me joy. That was easier to come up with. Things that I put a whole lot of effort in to, that bring me zero joy. I'm kicking those things (and people) out the door first. And, I'm adding more of the things that do bring me joy - being outside, being with my people, being flexible and free with my time, and focusing on who, not what. That's a big ask.

I think the hardest part of this is that to let joy in, I have to let stress out. Let stress go. For me, this is letting people and commitments that aren't working, for commitments that are. That's work of the heart. Letting go to hang on to something entirely unknown and unfamiliar, yet simple. 

I'm beginning to think simple is not easy. It may not even be less. I'm just hoping it's food for the soul. 

What am I diffusing this week to launch us in to joy? Douglas Fir and Bergamot to calm the soul and wrap us with positive energy. It's amazing how just a change in scent in the environment can activate the mind and our emotions in different ways. This is our favorite, never fails diffuser. We find our favorite oils here. 

Just sleep, kid!

One of the wonderful things that happens in motherhood, is that moment at night when your children fall asleep. Those beautiful little faces, resting peacefully and quietly, while you get 30 seconds to go to the bathroom alone before the dog or other people find you. Yep, you know the routine.

When my peeps can't sleep, neither can the mama. When this goes on night after night, there either has to be a solution or...well, there has to be a solution.

Enter lavender essential oil.

Lavender was part of our starter kit. We use it for so many things, particularly anxious children. We started diffusing it at night to promote relaxation and rest and we drag it along to sporting events - no anxiety there! I'm pretty sensitive to the scent of lavender, so I like to keep it light and diffuse or use a roller ball with fractionated coconut oil to apply it. Too much of anything can make it unbearable. 

We tend to like a more earthy scent in these parts, so when we discovered Juniper Berry essential oil, we definitely hit the jackpot! I always thought this would be a berry scent similar to fruit snacks. (Why? I don't know. Doesn't everything your kids like smell like a fruit snack)? 

It's a bit like lavender in scent, but has a depth that will ground your soul. Think clean, woodsy, and earthy plus a touch of lavender and you've got it! Juniper Berry is our go to night time diffusing oil and it goes well in a body butter or roller bottle if you want to carry it with you or diffusing isn't possible. 

Truth be told, we tried another brand of essential oil in the beginning. My tween, being our resident Juniper Berry expert reported that it was not as pure, not as strong, and didn't work the same. The scent is what lured her in, while the calming and ground effect of the oil is what keeps this oil at the top of her list. Right up there next to Starbucks Frappucino's and that's a tall order! 

Really, we're sleeping through the night and that's proof for me. 

Changing the Game

Still on the quest to uncover the perfect glow, I was using my fave soap and seeing some improvements, though I hadn't arrived. Oily skin has always been a challenge for me. I've always used scrubs and acne washes, though they seemed to make the problem worse. Now I know that over stimulating the skin and going from oily to dry extremes can make problem skin worse, but you know, I'm wise now that I hit forty (ha!)

We've all heard about coconut oil. Some folks even gargle that stuff and push it through their teeth! While coconut oil has never made even a cameo appearance in my coffee, I do find that it is a lovely makeup remover and it works quite well as a light moisturizer for my face. Mind you, I used a miniscule amount. 

Goat Milk Stuff tea tree soap + coconut oil moisturizer and I was almost there, but not quite. 

I tried witch hazel. Too tight.

I tried a popular mail order face wash company, too tight.

I tried Sea Breeze, because, why not? If my skin wanted to behave like a teenager, I could try treating it like a teenager. No luck. Too stinky and tight.

Then, I had an overnight trip with a group of scouts.  A brilliant scout mama introduced me to essential oils. (Seriously, I had been living in the dark times). WHOA this changed my game. I knew nothing about essential oils, but they smelled great and I'm all about good smells. 

In my trial of essential oils, I came across melaleuca, my old friend tea tree oil, and thought hmm...I wonder if this would work for my face without the smell? I ordered some up and the scent was amazing. This wasn't anything like the pungent smell of the tea tree oils I'd found locally. It also did not burn my skin. I started mixing it in with my fave soap and coconut oil every morning. 

BINGO! 

This was the missing piece I'd been searching for. 

I can tell you that for the last three years, I have been pimple free. My face is not dry, nor is it red or pimply. I even got Mr. Man to give it a shot and it works for him. YAY forty year old skin! 

This was the beginning of my essential oils adventure. I did do a great deal of research before deciding to try more oils or choosing a company to buy them from. There are so many options. You will be happy when you hang on to what makes you feel good.

A few years and many recipe inventions later, we have tremendous healing and joy in our lives (yes! just from essential oils). I don't buy in to anything I can't personally back up.  I actually don't like to do sales, so I shared my oils and concoctions with people to help them live a healthier life naturally too. This sharing gets a bit spendy, but I wholeheartedly believe that if you try it, you'll love it, and the rest is history! Essential oils have changed our lives, so why not share? 

I chose doTERRA because they support farmers, families, and education. Using essential oils with a high degree of purity and being able to check the quality myself are important to me. Using products that actually work is important to all of us. And the smell, oh how I love the smell! This is an important one, because who wants to diffuse oils that smell awful? Did you know your sense of smell is actually connected to memory? We definitely want those to be good ones! 

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